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  • View author's info Author Posted on Sep 06, 2006 at 10:14 AM


    1. "YOU SHALL NOT BE A TALE BEARER AMONG YOUR PEOPLE."
    Principle A: Strong boundaries are necessary to protect intimate relationships.

    Principle B: Carefully watch every word you say to others.

    2. "YOU SHALL NOT STAND IDLY BY THE BLOOD OF YOUR NEIGHBOR."
    Principle: Do not dismiss another person's emotional pain.

    3. "YOU SHALL NOT HATE YOUR FRIEND IN YOUR HEART."
    Principle: Don't dismiss or deny bad feelings. You are responsible to process and resolve your bad feelings about others.

    4. "YOU SHALL CERTAINLY REBUKE YOUR NEIGHBOR."
    Principle A: When someone hurts you, communicate with him about how you feel.
    Principle B: In order to communicate, you must feel safe.

    5. "YOU SHALL NOT BEAR SIN BECAUSE OF HIM."
    Principle: Communicating how you feel does not give you license to shame your spouse, make him feel guilty, or abuse him.

    6. "DON'T TAKE REVENGE OR BEAR A GRUDGE."
    Principle: If you don't finish all "old business," you will continue to hurt each other.

    7. "LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF."
    Principle: When we resolve our bad feelings towards others, we create a space for love.

    ----Rabbi Dov Heller, M.A.
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  • View author's info Posted on Oct 07, 2006 at 04:06 AM


    I believe what was quoted was what lot of relationships are lacking.It is a simple truth that many try to avoid but should come in a relationship naturally as it progress once there is love and that drive to be closer,commitment and respect will come into play.
  • View author's info Posted on Sep 21, 2006 at 01:58 AM


    marisol write:
    I don
    t a agree....is it all based on principles?? Arrogant, so to speak....

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  • View author's info Posted on Sep 14, 2006 at 05:21 AM


    I don
    t a agree....is it all based on principles?? Arrogant, so to speak....

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  • View author's info Posted on Sep 12, 2006 at 06:38 AM


    I agree.

    First: Every relationship begins with a date

    Isn't it?
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